Prom Night - Talked to Your Kids About Sex Lately? April 12, 2002 - Prom season is here and parents need to take the time to talk about sex with their teens, says the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families, a non-profit organization that works to educate the public of the harms of today’s sexualized culture. "On prom night, millions of American teens decide whether or not to give it up for the first time," said Jack Samad, vice president and producer of Sex & Young America: The Real Deal, a video and guide for parents. "With the constant sexual pressures teens face today, it is so important for parents to take an active role and have an influence on that decision." Interviews with the over 600 teens featured in Sex & Young America: The Real Deal helped the National Coalition develop the following tips for parents: 1. Find a quiet, private place to talk. 2. Be honest about feeling uncomfortable with the conversation. 3. Ask questions sparingly – avoid an interrogation. 4. Do not allow interruptions. Show your teen the conversation takes priority 5. Ask your teen how they define sex and appropriate behavior for prom night. 6. Avoid preaching. Your teen will develop their own beliefs and values through your modeling, integrity and instruction over time. 7. Make your values clear. Tell your teen how you feel about sex and relationships. 8. Be clear about your expectations and encourage them to come to you if they ever struggle to meet those expectations. 9. Tell your teen that they can use you as an excuse not to engage in certain activities. 10. Apologize if, in the past, you have not been clear about your expectations, have not exhibited integrity yourself, or have been quiet about the issue. 11. Be prepared to answer some tough questions. 12. Most importantly, be sincere in wanting to listen to learn. To hear hundreds of teens from across the country talk openly about today’s sex-saturated society, its impact on their behavior, and what moms and dads should do, parents can purchase Sex & Young America: The Real Deal ($14.95 plus S&H) online at www.sexandyoungamerica.com or by phone at 513.521.6227.

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